Luckily, this unhappy state of affairs does not last forever. We learn to move on. Some people throw themselves into love head first again and again, crashing on the rocks every time. Other people learn to grow more cautious: don't give your heart away completely until you know if the other person is being true to you. We all can benefit from a good mixture of caution and risk-taking.
Maybe you've given up on love. You've been hurt so many times that you are bitter to the whole concept. Maybe every relationship or marriage you've seen has ended in bitterness and meanness of spirit. We are surrounded by stories and rumors about cheating, fighting, breaking up.
But this is only one side of the story. Look around some more and you will find people who will love each other until the end. Who have stuck with each other through thick and thin. Who never gave up on each other. You may not have found somebody who is willing to do this for you yet, but keep looking and you certainly will.
When looking for love, stick to the following guidelines:
- Stay optimistic. You'll find somebody eventually!
- Be happy single. If you're happy with your single life, you won't feel a great need or pressure to find somebody. But if somebody good comes along, that's great! You'll be more attractive when you are independent, happy, and self-assured, than if you are needy, groping, and unhappy.
- Test the waters. Rather than leaping straight into a relationship, test the person first. Gauge their interest. See if they are the right kind of person for you.
- Get over it. If they reject you or don't show enough interest, they probably aren't meant for you. Move on to greener pastures.
- Work at a relationship. Don't give up at the first sign of hardship. Every relationship has troubles, and everyone who stays together has to learn how to work through them.
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